What Is A True Friend

What Is A True Friend?

I first started my email newsletter back in 1997 because I had so many friends that would ask me question after question about my music career when I would see them in person. I thought that publishing a newsletter would keep them informed and allow me to talk about other things when I saw them. However, since then, the newsletter has taken on several characteristics I hadn’t planned on. It has become a promotional tool, contact list, inspirational column, music educational guide and many other things.

However, the one thing that remains the same is the fact that I consider all of you my friends. I never liked the word “Fan” because it is a derivative of fanatic. Although I have a few friends that are questionable none of them are fanatics ( at least not about me). They are people that I care about and who care about me.

So, today I ask the question: What is a true friend? I tend to think that a true friend is someone that cares about you in spite of all your faults. They are the people that will call when you are sick to check if you alright. They come out to the important events of your life like birthdays, graduations, weddings and stuff like that. They are people that you can call when you need help. So many people claim to be your friend but you never really know for sure until you have to call on them for something other than just friendship. That’s when you start seeing who your true friends are. But in this sense I am speaking about my musical friends. Those people who heard my music and decided to join my email list.

When I released my first solo CD in 2004 I found out very quickly who my true friends were. They were the ones that bought my Cd’s, came to my release party and bought downloads of my music. They were referring other people to my newsletter and sending folks links to my website. They proved their friendship to me by using that good old word called “Action”. You see, a lot of people want to be your friend until they have to do something. When they are asked to do something they run or they hide from you.

I had one so-called friend that I asked to come help me at my CD release party. I asked him because I knew he had experience at running sound. But he didn’t answer my emails and didn’t even show up to the release party. I was so hurt by that. Why? Because I loved him like one of my best friends. You see, I had stuck my neck out for this friend many times. I got him jobs and helped him in time of need. If anyone was going to help me, I just knew it would be him. But he proved he was not really my friend.

Fortunately, I do have many true friends. They are the people that were there shouting and clapping their hands to my music. They prepared a place and food for the show and filled the club with so much love that I was totally overwhelmed. Yes, some music executive would have looked at the event and said: He has great fans! But to me, they were all my great friends. People I cared about and that cared about me.

As I head full steam towards the release of my next CD I am awed by all the new friends that have joined my newsletter. The list has swelled to proportions I never thought it would. But I can’t help but wonder how many of those that have signed up will prove to be true friends. Friends that will act if I need them. I’m heading into deep waters now. Several major labels will be watching me. I am entering contests that will require votes from my friends if I am to win. Whether I succeed or fail depends on one main thing. How many true friends do I have? How many will buy my CD and downloads? How many will forward my emails to their friends? Will they read this whole newsletter and send me a hearty reply? These are questions that will soon answer themselves.

I have one friend that has never ever let me down. He has been there for me no matter what. A long time ago, he even gave his life for me. I hope he is your friend to because when people let you down, he will be there for you. He is the ultimate example of a true friend. Let me know if you ever want to meet him. I’ll be glad to introduce you to my very best friend.

Be Blessed,

Stoneman 

PS.  Be sure to join my email list.....C'mon be like Nike.  Just do it.........................LOL





3 comments

  • Wayne Pascall Acappella

    Wayne Pascall Acappella

    Hey Stoneman, I am still digging your music! "IN PARADISE" is a hot Gospel track. I absolutely love it!!! Great work Stoneman. Great message and also nice quality. Keep up the great work man. Your friend from Soundclick. Wayne

    Hey Stoneman,

    I am still digging your music! "IN PARADISE" is a hot Gospel track. I absolutely love it!!! Great work Stoneman. Great message and also nice quality. Keep up the great work man. Your friend from Soundclick.

    Wayne

  • Bishop James R Winfree Sr,

    Bishop James R Winfree Sr,

    :love:BISHOP JAMES & BETTY WINFREE MINISTRIES PARTNERSHIP What does partnership mean? When I looked up partnership on Dictionary.com this is what it says: Partnership A relationship between individuals or groups that is characterized by mutual cooperation and responsibility, as for the achievement of a specified goal: A good example is joining in partnership with Bishop James Winfree Ministries and Team. When you join you enter into a relationship with us and we are all about teamwork; we are a give-and-take ministry; where each partner gives what they have and Bishop James Winfree Ministries and Team gives what we have. No one party is giving all the time to anyone who is just taking. Partnership is not just any one person taking all the time that is not teamwork. Teamwork is a cooperative effort by the members of a group or team to achieve a common goal That, is what we here looking for here at Bishop James Winfree Ministries and Team, people who are willing to work with us in cooperative effort as a team to achieve to a common goal. When you join you enter into Partnership with us and you are saying that I am willing to be in cooperation with this ministry. You are saying I am willing to give what I have just like the early Church did after the Holy Spirit fell upon the people. They shared everything and no one was in lack of anything: Acts 2:41-47 41 Then those who gladly received his word were baptized; and that day about three thousand souls were added to them. 42 And they continued steadfastly in the apostles’ doctrine and fellowship, in the breaking of bread, and in prayers. 43 Then fear came upon every soul, and many wonders and signs were done through the apostles. 44 Now all who believed were together, and had all things in common, 45 and sold their possessions and goods, and divided them among all, as anyone had need. 46 So continuing daily with one accord in the temple, and breaking bread from house to house, they ate their food with gladness and simplicity of heart, 47 praising God and having favor with all the people. And the Lord added to the church daily those who were being saved. Acts 4:29-37 29 Now, Lord, look on their threats, and grant to Your servants that with all boldness they may speak Your word, 30 by stretching out Your hand to heal, and that signs and wonders may be done through the name of Your holy Servant Jesus." 31 And when they had prayed, the place where they were assembled together was shaken; and they were all filled with the Holy Spirit, and they spoke the word of God with boldness. 32 Now the multitude of those who believed were of one heart and one soul; neither did anyone say that any of the things he possessed was his own, but they had all things in common. 33 And with great power the apostles gave witness to the resurrection of the Lord Jesus. And great grace was upon them all. 34 Nor was there anyone among them who lacked; for all who were possessors of lands or houses sold them, and brought the proceeds of the things that were sold, 35 and laid them at the apostles’ feet; and they distributed to each as anyone had need. 36 And Joses, who was also named Barnabas by the apostles (which is translated Son of Encouragement), a Levite of the country of Cyprus, 37 having land, sold it, and brought the money and laid it at the apostles’ feet. Now this was teamwork and God added to the Church daily. What is Bishop James Winfree Ministries and Teams goal? To bring Unity and Equality to the Church, the Body of Christ, and we would like you to join us in partnership to achieve this goal. 2 Corinthians 8:11-15 (NKJV) 11 but now you also must complete the doing of it; that as there was a readiness to desire it, so there also may be a completion out of what you have. 12 For if there is first a willing mind, it is accepted according to what one has, and not according to what he does not have. 13 For I do not mean that others should be eased and you burdened; 14 but by an equality, that now at this time your abundance may supply their lack, that their abundance also may supply your lack—that there may be equality. 15 As it is written, "He who gathered much had nothing left over, and he who gathered little had no lack." Luke 6:38 38 If you give, you will receive. Your gift will return to you in full measure, pressed down, shaken together to make room for more, and running over. Whatever measure you use in giving – large or small – it will be used to measure what is given back to you. Whatever you have to offer this ministry and you are willing to give your talents, time, money and hard work etc. we are willing give back to you our talents, time, money and hard work etc. and we will see God increase the Church as He did for the Early Church. Written with the Authority of Jesus Christ And With the Authority of Bishop James R. Winfree

    loveBISHOP JAMES & BETTY WINFREE MINISTRIES

    PARTNERSHIP
    What does partnership mean? When I looked up partnership on Dictionary.com this is what it says:

    Partnership

    A relationship between individuals or groups that is characterized by mutual cooperation and responsibility, as for the achievement of a specified goal:

    A good example is joining in partnership with Bishop James Winfree Ministries and Team. When you join you enter into a relationship with us and we are all about teamwork; we are a give-and-take ministry; where each partner gives what they have and Bishop James Winfree Ministries and Team gives what we have.

    No one party is giving all the time to anyone who is just taking. Partnership is not just any one person taking all the time that is not teamwork. Teamwork is a cooperative effort by the members of a group or team to achieve a common goal

    That, is what we here looking for here at Bishop James Winfree Ministries and Team, people who are willing to work with us in cooperative effort as a team to achieve to a common goal.

    When you join you enter into Partnership with us and you are saying that I am willing to be in cooperation with this ministry. You are saying I am willing to give what I have just like the early Church did after the Holy Spirit fell upon the people.

    They shared everything and no one was in lack of anything:

    Acts 2:41-47

    41 Then those who gladly received his word were baptized; and that day about three thousand souls were added to them. 42 And they continued steadfastly in the apostles’ doctrine and fellowship, in the breaking of bread, and in prayers. 43 Then fear came upon every soul, and many wonders and signs were done through the apostles. 44 Now all who believed were together, and had all things in common, 45 and sold their possessions and goods, and divided them among all, as anyone had need.

    46 So continuing daily with one accord in the temple, and breaking bread from house to house, they ate their food with gladness and simplicity of heart, 47 praising God and having favor with all the people. And the Lord added to the church daily those who were being saved.

    Acts 4:29-37

    29 Now, Lord, look on their threats, and grant to Your servants that with all boldness they may speak Your word, 30 by stretching out Your hand to heal, and that signs and wonders may be done through the name of Your holy Servant Jesus."

    31 And when they had prayed, the place where they were assembled together was shaken; and they were all filled with the Holy Spirit, and they spoke the word of God with boldness.

    32 Now the multitude of those who believed were of one heart and one soul; neither did anyone say that any of the things he possessed was his own, but they had all things in common. 33 And with great power the apostles gave witness to the resurrection of the Lord Jesus. And great grace was upon them all. 34 Nor was there anyone among them who lacked; for all who were possessors of lands or houses sold them, and brought the proceeds of the things that were sold, 35 and laid them at the apostles’ feet; and they distributed to each as anyone had need.

    36 And Joses, who was also named Barnabas by the apostles (which is translated Son of Encouragement), a Levite of the country of Cyprus, 37 having land, sold it, and brought the money and laid it at the apostles’ feet.

    Now this was teamwork and God added to the Church daily.

    What is Bishop James Winfree Ministries and Teams goal? To bring Unity and Equality to the Church, the Body of Christ, and we would like you to join us in partnership to achieve this goal.

    2 Corinthians 8:11-15 (NKJV)

    11 but now you also must complete the doing of it; that as there was a readiness to desire it, so there also may be a completion out of what you have. 12 For if there is first a willing mind, it is accepted according to what one has, and not according to what he does not have.
    13 For I do not mean that others should be eased and you burdened; 14 but by an equality, that now at this time your abundance may supply their lack, that their abundance also may supply your lack—that there may be equality. 15 As it is written, "He who gathered much had nothing left over, and he who gathered little had no lack."

    Luke 6:38

    38 If you give, you will receive. Your gift will return to you in full measure, pressed down, shaken together to make room for more, and running over. Whatever measure you use in giving – large or small – it will be used to measure what is given back to you.

    Whatever you have to offer this ministry and you are willing to give your talents, time, money and hard work etc. we are willing give back to you our talents, time, money and hard work etc. and we will see God increase the Church as He did for the Early Church.

    Written with the Authority of Jesus Christ
    And
    With the Authority of Bishop James R. Winfree

  • Donna

    Donna

    Well this is the first time listening to your music and I have to say I am a fan. Loved the way it sounded and loved to watch your video. It was great!!!! Although I was kinda of young when all that crap happened I do recall certain times where I just couldnt believe people would act they way they do. To this day I still cant believe some people. I live my life knowing everyone is different and I believe in Peace and Love in this world and everyone is human and I embrace everyone. I will not acknowledge ignorace anymore. Peace much love Donna deanagain4466@yahoo.com

    Well this is the first time listening to your music and I have to say I am a fan. Loved the way it sounded and loved to watch your video. It was great!!!! Although I was kinda of young when all that crap happened I do recall certain times where I just couldnt believe people would act they way they do. To this day I still cant believe some people. I live my life knowing everyone is different and I believe in Peace and Love in this world and everyone is human and I embrace everyone. I will not acknowledge ignorace anymore. Peace much love Donna deanagain4466@yahoo.com

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